Up Up and Away

Posted on July 9, 2010. Filed under: Adversity, Children, Faith, God, Justice, Love, Mercy | Tags: , , , , , , |

Okay, so the day has finally arrived where 19 people from the Mesa and Gilbert Arizona area will be traveling around the world to a remote country called Malawi, Africa.  Why are we going to Malawi, is there a fantastic resort there?  I am not sure, but if there is, we are not going to it.  We are going to live and care for those who have not had the easiest life. We are on a mission to give assistance to some in the world who have been ravaged with AIDS/HIV, raped and beaten women, orphaned children, severe poverty and poor living conditions.

God has directed all 19 of us to go and be with the people of Chikuzulire, Africa, and to give support in many different ways.  We are bringing medical supplies, so that the children can be de-wormed, administered antibiotics, and have their hungry bellies fed.  Only God knows exactly what will happen while we are there, so we just pray for His will to be done.

I will be collecting my thoughts in an electronic journal each day we are there, for which I will publish on my blog post in successive days once we get back to an area where we have internet.  So, in the meantime, please pray for our journey, pray for safety, and that God will move in a mighty way for those we will be with for the next 2 weeks.  Pray that we can be the hands and feet for God, and pray for God’s will to be done on this earth and in the place of Malawi.

In Matthew 28:18-20, the Bible tells us this:

“18 And Jesus came and said to them, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. 19 Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”

Have a blessed day.

Daryl Dho

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Serving People Around The World

Posted on April 19, 2010. Filed under: Adversity, Children, Faith, God, Justice, Love, Mercy | Tags: , , , , , , |

I am excited to be going on the mission trip to Chikuzulire, Malawi from July 9th through July 24th, 2010 in order for our team to provide assistance and counseling to many women and children who struggle with challenges in their lives, such as rape and HIV/AIDS.  This past week, I had the privilege to meet with Mission Community Church’s partner from Somebody Cares, an organization which helps support those who have many physical and spiritual needs; her name is Chief Theresa Malila.

Theresa gave us an extensive overview of the current conditions in Malawi, and what we could expect on our trip.  As she spoke and described life in Malawi, I was overwhelmed by her stories, which both broke my heart and encouraged me simultaneously.  She is an amazing servant of God for the people in Malawi.  Afterwards, I was more convinced of the importance of the trips our team takes to Malawi in order to provide assistance, all while sharing the gospel of Jesus through our lives and our words.  It excites me to envision how God will use us, as we serve and minister to their myriad of needs.  Yes, it is a privilege to be serving people around the world.

I also ask for your continued prayers, as we approach the time to go to Malawi, including preparing our minds and hearts to be focused on serving those individuals who have many needs.  The area is very poverty stricken, has a low life expectancy, and high rates of HIV/AIDS.  Over the last few years, positive change has taken place in the villages around the area of Chikuzulire due to so many people who care for and educate them.  What we do to humbly serve them, in order to bring some hope and the gospel of Jesus Christ is so important.

If you would like to find out how you may participate either financially or prayerfully, please visit my blog dated April 7, 2010.

Also, if you would like to obtain some information about the country of Malawi, please go to this Wikipedia address on the internet: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Malawi

May God bless you,

Daryl Dho

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Please Help Pray For And Finance Africa Mission Trip

Posted on April 7, 2010. Filed under: Children, Faith, Family, Friendship, Glory, God, Justice, Love, Mercy, Sacrifice | Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Recently, I was presented with the opportunity to go to Malawi, which is in the southeast portion of Africa.  It borders Tanzania on the East and Mozambique on the West.  My church, Mission Community Church, in partnership with the organization, Somebody Cares, has taken the approach that we truly are the hands and feet of Christ.  I am joining a team on July 9th through July 24th to help where God sees fit to best serve the needs of the people there.  Our destination is the village of Chikudzulire, where previous teams from our church have had the opportunity to assist in the completion of a well for clean drinking water and the construction of a feeding center and community center to provide for more than 900 local children who have been orphaned by the AIDS pandemic.  There are many opportunities our team may assist with while we are there; for which our Trip Focus will include building relationships and to be a support with the people of Chikudzulire and other villages; and to address the issues widows, women and orphans face each day.  Our Trip Purpose will be to organize and conduct rape/crisis counseling conferences; and to teach and train on women’s issues of hygiene, sex education, childcare and other topics as needed; along with additional projects as directed through the staff of Somebody Cares.  Most importantly we’ll get to show the amazing love of Jesus to some of the most hurting and impoverished people on the planet. The trip will personally challenge me to things I’ve never dreamed of and surely will change my life forever.  

Each individual team member will need approximately $3,000 to fully fund this trip.  Any funds that are donated will directly help us to cover airfare, food, lodging and local transportation, as well as supplies for aiding the children in the villages that we will visit.   I have no idea how God will work to provide the funds for me, but I know He has something incredible to teach me while we are there and through the fundraising process.  He surely will provide.  I feel compelled to provide hands-on help to these children in Malawi, and I am thankful that God is opening doors to allow this to happen.   So, do you want to participate with me on an African Mission trip?

This is where you come in.  I am writing to all of you since you are my friends and already supporters of me personally in my life.  I ask that you would consider offering a financial gift, not because I need it; for God doesn’t need any help from you or I. I’m asking you specifically because I want to invite you to participate with me in this step of faith and see what God does with what you can give.  Equally important is prayer support for safety on the trip, the strength of the team, and the hearts of the Malawi people.  May God keep us safe and work through us and in the lives of those we go to serve. As the trip nears, I’ll provide further information where you can prayerfully follow along through an online blog and photo-journal while we are in Malawi.  Thank for your love and support for allowing your resources to dramatically change the lives of people in Africa.  All prayers and any financial support will be a blessing to the ministry.  Even as little as $10 can go a long way.

If you would prefer to donate securely online, please go to http://www.Africa.mission68.org and select the “Give” tab on the far right.  Set up a quick login account if you don’t already have one and follow the simple prompts.  Select the trip which I am participating and input my name, amount of donation and payment info.  If needed, please contact me for additional instructions or details about giving online.

IMPORTANT Please make all checks payable to “ Mission Community Church “ and leave the memo line BLANK, but attach a note indicating my name, Daryl Dho, so my account will be credited.  You can mail your check the following address:

Daryl Dho
10141 E. Kilarea Ave.
Mesa, AZ  85209

Micah 6:8 He has showed you, O man, what is good.
And what does the Lord require of you?  To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.

May God Bless You All,

Daryl Dho

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Overcome My Guilt; The Pain Of Seeking Sobriety

Posted on April 5, 2010. Filed under: Forgiveness, God, Love, Marriage, Salvation, Sobriety | Tags: , , , , , |

How many of us feel lost in our own guilt, shame, or self-doubt? I imagine there are many who feel this way, many who choose a path, which at times leads to a denial of their own feelings. Many people turn to destructive ways, including abusing prescriptions, alcohol, or illicit drugs. This numbing of our mind and body usually results in a lower feeling of self-worth, illness, broken relationships, and failure in life’s ambitions. We become separated from how God intended to live our lives, and in the end, we may suffer an emotion of guilt for how we are living our lives. As we continue on our destructive path, we find it tough to separate ourselves from a mood of guilt, and begin to feel as if we must bear this guilt on our backs forever. When we try to overcome our guilt, we may find there is pain in seeking sobriety.

As a consequence of our guilt and sin, our patterns of life habits may turn into greater abuses of our body, mind, and those around us. Because of this pattern of living, we begin to exclude those whom we care for and love, from our time and life experiences. We unfortunately have fallen into a trap of denial, concerning truth and reality, concerning the certainty that we are spiraling into a self-destructive way, all the way to the bottom. At some point in our relationships with others, we may even lash out in unnecessary anger, neglect them completely by shutting them out of our feelings, or quite possibly injure our relationships, due to mental or physical abuse.

I have been there and done that. I have fallen into the trap of self-abuse through substance abuse, of which the consequence was a strained relationship with my wife, children who were put in danger, and a feeling of guilt beyond measure. I was trapped in my sin of substance abuse, one that had taken me on a 20-year journey, one for which I did not believe there was a way out. I was not a happy man, continuously hiding away and seeking pleasure from substances, which at the end of the day, left me only feeling completely empty, and void of any hope.

When I sought help for my substance abuse, got sober, and began to adjust my life, I still was ridden with guilt, and the question became this; how would I overcome my guilt? My sins were still there, my pattern of life was adjusting, but I still had the guilt of sin. I had not discovered a remedy for how I felt about all of the sins I had committed and all of the sins and wrongs I still was doing in my life. I was still stuck in sin. Or was I?

Even though I had stopped the symptom of my behavior, as I was no longer involved in substance abuse, I still was dealing with the feeling of overwhelming guilt, the shame of how I had lived my life, the disgrace of how I had treated my wife and family. Then I discovered some good news. There is a way out of the feeling I was unnecessarily carrying around, the feeling that I would not be able to overcome my guilt. Romans 8:1-2(ESV) says, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death.” Once I became a part of life with Christ, I was set free from the bondage of sin, the guilt and shame I carried on my back was now shouldered by the Lord of the universe, Jesus Christ, who came to the world to redeem us from our sins. For that, I am eternally grateful. I am truly blessed, for now I am free, and no longer in need of a way to overcome my guilt from sin. Jesus is the way, and the truth, and the life (John 14:6).

May you be guilt free and blessed in your life,

Daryl Dho

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Who’s The Boss?

Posted on March 25, 2010. Filed under: Creation, Faith, Glory, God, Heaven, Holiness, Love, Righteousness | Tags: , , , , , , , |

Who’s the boss? Are we the boss, or is our spouse, our employer, the government, or someone or something else the boss?  Or, is God, the creator of the universe as we know it, the boss?  If God is the boss, then who is He, who is God really?  This blog is the second installment of my search of how to describe God, based on what I read in the Psalms.

Is The Bible, or God’s Word, True?

A beautiful and integral part of getting to know my Heavenly Father better is to take comfort in the fact that God’s word, in the original manuscripts are inerrant.  We gain assurance of this in (Ps 119:160), which eternally blesses us with, “The sum of your word is truth, and every one of your righteous rules endures forever,” as well as (Num 23:19), for which we are told, “God is not man, that He should lie, or a son of man, that He should change his mind.  Has He said, and will He not do it?  Or has He spoken, and will He not fulfill it?”  In (2 Tim 3:16-17), we read, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.”  As I explore the Psalms, in order to gain access to who my Heavenly Father is, knowing I can trust God’s word without question is imperative.

Holiness

My Heavenly Father is Holy in His ways; He is perfect in goodness and righteousness, He is divine and sacred, inspiring us to be in awe of His very being and worthy of our revering Him in our most humble posture.  He is Holy, sitting enthroned on the praises of Israel, the Lord our God is holy.  We can trust in His holy and awesome name, giving thanks, for in His holy name is glory.  All of God’s ways are holy.  As we are in awe of how the Lord our God is great, we are motivated to exalt Him and to worship at His footstool; yes He is holy.  In His holiness, God speaks to His people with trustworthiness; His character is pure, unwavering and dependable.  God’s holiness is consecrated in His sacredness, which is deserving of our devoted and affectionate worship.  What a wonderful and holy God we have.

Lovingkindness/Steadfast love

One of the beautiful aspects of God is His lovingkindness or steadfast love. Psalm 25:10 tells us all the paths of the Lord are lovingkindness, which gives us so much insight into His character, as this reveals his kindness, mercy, faithfulness, and goodness.  His lovingkindness endures all the day, is precious to us, and we are reminded of how His steadfast love extends to the heavens.  When we walk in faithfulness with the Lord, we can take solace in God’s steadfast love, which is before our eyes, as life’s struggles attempts to knock us down.  Because we know God knows our endeavors, we can rejoice and be glad in His lovingkindness.  In His lovingkindness and truth, we can persevere through life, knowing He is righteous, and abundant in mercy.

If we were ever to doubt whether or not our Heavenly Father’s love will cease, we can review the approximately 30 verses in the Psalms, which tell us of how His steadfast love endures forever (Ps 118:1-4; 136:1-26).  In these verses, there is a magnificence in knowing God is the Lord of lords, does great wonders, made the heavens, spread out the earth, made the great lights, told the sun to rule over the day and the moon and stars to rule over the night, lead the Israelites out of Egypt, struck down kings, gave their land as a heritage, rescues, and provides food to all flesh, all because his steadfast love endures forever.  Reflecting on how His lovingkindness is everlasting, we should render thanks to the Lord for His lovingkindness and His wondrous works.  How truly blessed we are due to His steadfast love for us.

Tune in next time for a continuation of my search to describe who my Heavenly Father is.

May God bless your day,

Daryl Dho

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Life’s Little Bundles Of Joy

Posted on March 18, 2010. Filed under: Children, Creation, Family, God, Love | Tags: , , , , |

Today was a fun day, as I took a leisurely drive with my Mom and Wife on a picturesque two-lane mountain road outside of Payson, Arizona to a little town called Pine.  Yes, to answer your question, there are some pine trees in Pine, Arizona.  We looked around at some of the antique shops, which to me seemed like overgrown garage sales.  I sense maybe some of the people who own these antiques shops go to many garage sales, seeking the next “hot item” for their stores.  But, all in all, it was a fun time just walking around, as we ventured through several stores, prior to completing our visit to the quaint little town by having a late lunch in one of the restaurants, which was an antique itself, and at some point, converted from an old house.

Next stop on our journey was to my nephew’s house in Payson.  My nephew and his wife have 3 children, ages 7, 2, and 5 months.  Of course, all three children have extremely distinctive personalities, not only because God has made each and every one of us uniquely special, but also due to their age differences.

As I watched the children play, run around, act shy, and say whatever came into their inquisitive little minds, I experienced a diversity of emotions.  My three children, who are now 22, 19, and 16 years of age, were, as babies, yesterday’s life’s little bundles of joy. Seeing my nephew’s children, remembering my own children growing up, as well as recalling when my nephew was born, really gave me a sense of joy.  Yes, we had 4 generations in the house at the same time, which amazed me as I negotiated through the passing years of life in my mind.  At some point in our lives, we were all life’s little bundles of joy, for those who brought us into this world.

How incredible our life cycle is.  One day we are but a thought in someone’s mind, and the next we are crawling, walking, and talking, until the day comes when we continue the cycle of life with our own multiplication into the next generation.  God told Adam to be fruitful and multiply in Genesis.  Year after year, generation after generation, this has continued as the world’s population of families continues to grow.  How beautiful our world is when we gaze upon life’s little bundles of joy, which are smiling, giggling, and developing their own distinct personalities.

The next time you see a baby, take a moment to reminisce about when you were a baby yourself, how your parents were babies before you knew them, and if you have been blessed to have had your own children, then take satisfaction in the joy of their lives, their growing up to become adults, and the day where they will fulfill what God says in Genesis 1:28 ESV, “And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

Yes, babies are life’s little bundles of joy, so when you see one, take the time to enjoy them, take the time to think about how intricate their little bodies are, and how God has created each and every one of them in His image.  Then, love them, and love them, and love them until the day you depart this earth.

May God bless your days with life’s little bundles of joy,

Daryl Dho

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I Think I Will Take The Easy Way Out.

Posted on March 16, 2010. Filed under: Family, God, Love, Marriage, Personal Happiness, Weddings | Tags: , , , , , |

“I think I will take the easy way out!” Okay, I’m sure my statement confuses you, plus you are probably wondering what I am talking about, and where I am going with these thoughts.  Well, it is quite simple really; I am planning on living a long time and getting old together with my wife.  We have already been married over 24 years, which has not always been easy, but it certainly has been an exciting adventure.  Going through life is an adventure no matter how we look at it, so I might as well have a partner I enjoy experiencing the ride with.

If I offend you with what I am going to say next, then I apologize for that, but I am not sorry for speaking what I would consider the truth.  You see, in our culture, we have made it simply too easy to bail out on marriages as soon as we feel that it is not going the way we had planned.  Unfortunately, I do not know anyone, except for God, who knows what is going to happen next in his or her lives.  If we truly believe that our happiness is based on our ability to negotiate a path through life which does not have any left turns, right turns, or 180’s, then we need to have another look around, seek another perspective, and probably embrace the reality that we cannot, under any circumstances, make life go exactly the way we would like it or plan it, there are just too many variables.

The problem is, especially evident in our culture; we believe we can draw up the perfect plan for our lives, one that we can control, as if we were the only person on the planet.  Well, we certainly will not be able to control every outcome in life, considering all of the people in the world making decisions based on emotions, conditions, plans, and hopes, etc. There really is no way we will be able to dial-up every aspect of our lives in a way where the end result will be “exactly according to Hoyle”, as the saying goes.

Of course, this holds true when two people come together in marriage.  Personally, I believe in the commitment I made to my wife when we got married, committed to a life of richer or poorer, health or sickness, happiness or sorrow; I am committed to participating in life’s adventure until we grow old together.  Jesus said in Matthew 19:9 ESV, “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”  I recognize there are circumstances such as abuse, when a spouse could be in harm’s way if they were to stay with in their marriage.  But, by and large, I am convinced that if couples would work together, putting God first in their lives, they would be able to accomplish what was said in most wedding ceremonies, which is they stay together “till death do us part.”

To me the bottom line is the fact that in our culture too many people do not fulfill their commitment to their marriages.  It is too convenient to dissolve a marriage and move on.  People think when they get a divorce, in order to pursue a different avenue in life, which may include another mate, they are taking the easy way out.  I do not believe they are taking the easy way out when a divorce comes so easy, but rather a road to incomplete fulfillment of a life of happiness with someone they supposedly once loved.  Staying with your spouse, working through any difficulties you may have seems to the best way to have a life full of love and worth.  Yes, I think I will take the easy way out, and stay with my wife until we grow old together.

May you have a committed life with whomever God has put you in a relationship with,

Daryl Dho

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All You Need Is Love

Posted on March 11, 2010. Filed under: Love, Marriage, Weddings | Tags: , , , |

I am guessing that most people, 5 years of age and older, have probably heard and can recite most or many of the words of the 1967 classic Beatles song, “All You Need Is Love.” I appreciate the song similar to billions of others worldwide, but The Beatles only had part of the equation correct.  They understood the importance of the line “All you need is love, love is all you need”, but the grabber of my mind is they never define “love” in the song.

Our world, filled with death and destruction, high rates of divorce, poverty, hatred, discrimination, slavery, and many other less than desirable circumstances, desperately needs a vaccine of love.  But many people are perplexed as to what love is.  Certainly, we need to spread love in our world in a way which reaches every nook and cranny of society.  But, upon our examination, what are the characteristics of authentic love and how can it be most readily defined?

Think about all of the weddings you have attended in your life for a moment; how many of them included the words from 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 in the ceremony?   Here is God’s wonderful description of love from His word in the ESV translation, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.”  This passage in the Bible represents what many consider the perfect description of love?  During the wedding ceremony, we all desire to understand and characterize what love is, in order to equate how the couple will live their life together, “till death do us part.”

But this love we so readily desire comes from God, as we read in 1 John 4:7-8, which states, “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.”  Yes, it is important we realize that the beautiful love described in 1 Corinthians comes from God.  If we abide in this life in a way where we put God first in all things, allowing His Holy Spirit to indwell us in a way which radiates love to a world crying out for love, then we, in turn, will realize a peace which comes only from our Heavenly Father, a peace which will transcend all other aspects in our lives, contributing to our willingness to care for others more than ourselves.  If we share the kind of love Paul describes in 1 Corinthians, then we should comprehend love, and others we be on the receiving end of our love, which we receive from God, the creator, and when we do that, we can satisfyingly state, “All you need is love.”  A better world awaits our ability to love, so purposefully act in a way that portrays the love described in God’s word.

Go and bless someone’s life today by authentically loving them.

Daryl Dho

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Have You Called Your Mom Today?

Posted on January 17, 2010. Filed under: Communication, Family, Forgiveness, Friendship, Love | Tags: , , , , , |

For years, a close friend of mine told me he called his Mom every day.  She lived in another state, so he did not have the opportunity to see her very often.  According to my friend, their conversations were not that long, but were meaningful.  If you keep reading this post, you will discover why their conversations were so meaningful.  Unfortunately, his Mom passed away around Christmas, and he passed away last week from a car accident.  My friend would call in the morning, before work, and they would talk for awhile discussing what was going on in their lives.  He loved his Mom, and calling her every day was one way he showed her his love.  Of course, if you don’t call your Mom every day, that does not mean you do not love her, but it can’t hurt!  If you don’t mind, I want to you ask a question; have you called your Mom today? I understand for some of you who have lost your Mom, or do not know your Mom, this may be difficult, and for that I apologize.  But, you have others in your life you care for and love, others who you may need to call today.

I know most of us realize life is short, and the older we get the faster time seems to go by, but what are we doing to capitalize on every moment life has to offer?  Some time ago, I developed a theory as to why life seems to go by faster the older we get.  You see, if you take 1 year of your life when you are 5 years old, that 1 year is 20% of your life.  But, when you are 50 years old, 1 year is only 2% of your life span.  As we get older, a year of our life is a much smaller percentage to our overall years of life on this earth, therefore creating this idea or thought in our head that life is going by faster.  It really is not going by any faster, but seems to be going faster, due to the percentage of time we are measuring being a smaller percentage to our overall age as time goes by.  When we turn 100 years old, which I know is a long shot, then 1 year will be 1% of our total life.  So, a 5 year old does not have many life experiences to measure a year of time with, while a person 75 has 15 times as many years and occurrences in life to measure.  That is my theory.  With those thoughts, we certainly do not want to waste any of our precious and valuable time here on earth, but rather use it wisely, placing value on all of the relationships we have, whereby putting those relationships at the top our list of priorities, or “bucket list”.  Have you called your Mom today?

Since we all should understand time goes by way too fast, therefore desiring not to waste any of it, we need make sure we spend quality time with those we love and care for.  We never know when the minute, hour, or day will come in our lives when we will pass on from this life to the next.  It is imperative then, that we realize life is full of the unknown, including when our physical life will end.  Therefore, without exception, we should treat every moment, every hour and every day as if it may be the last.  Have you called your Mom today?

We should never stay angry with anyone, never go to bed after an argument with a family member or friend, never leave the house in the middle of an argument, until we resolve our dispute.  Holding a grudge or internalizing negative feelings towards others, does not serve any positive purpose.  We need to clear the air, acknowledging what wrong we have done, asking for forgiveness, and then move on.  Harboring hateful or hostile feelings towards others just puts us in an unfavorable place to be, one that can only bring misery and despair to both parties.  It is always best to put aside our pride, be the bigger person, and admitting fault, even if we are not wrong, or believe we are not wrong.  Have you called your Mom today?

Having a dispute with people we care about is not something I believe any of us delight in, but we allow our foolish pride to get in the way, therefore blurring our vision and our ability to make the proper decision about the resolution of the strife that exists between us.  Usually, these quarrels are a disagreement over something with no major importance.  Many times, we can’t even remember how they started in the first place.  Again, we are allowing our pride to take control of our life; whereby we neglect the most important part of the equation, the continuance of our relationship with the person we are in conflict with.  It is not worth existing in an environment which could be considered hostile.  Make the necessary adjustments to rectify what the problem is; then make up with the person and move on.  Life is short.  Have you called your Mom today?

This life goes by in a blink of an eye.  At the end of our lives, nothing we have will go with us, not our money, our cars, our house, our TV, none of it.  Everything we have will stay here on earth, be given to someone else, and eventually will disappear.  What is most important in this life are two things, as Jesus said in Matthew 22:37-39 (ESV), “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.  This is the great and first commandment.  And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”  We must care more about our relationships in this life than the pursuit of the temporal aspects of this world which seem so enticing.  Caring for others, including our parents, our spouse, our children, and our friends, should be our priority.  Nothing else matters in the end. Have you called your Mom today?

Jesus consistently talked about how we should love one another, as he said in John 13:34, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.”  If we care more for others than ourselves, the reward we receive in return far outweighs what we think we are losing by giving.  This attitude of giving for others carries with it a prize of fulfillment, for when we care for one another, we receive a warming spirit in our lives, an intangible gift that is more wonderful than any physical thing the world can provide.  Have you called your Mom today?

Life is short, do not waste any of it.  Work always towards the building of relationships with your family and friends.  If we put our stock in the relationships of our lives, we will leave behind a legacy that can go on forever, generation to generation, as the thoughts and memories of how we cared for others will be carried on.  If we put our stock in the tangible things of this world, we will only be remembered as long as the stuff we leave behind exists.  Beyond that time, our memories will deteriorate as did our wealth.  Spend this life with people.  Have you called your Mom today?

May God bless your life with an abundance of loving relationships,

Daryl Dho

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True Friendships Are Rare

Posted on January 12, 2010. Filed under: Creation, Faith, Family, Forgiveness, Friendship, Heaven, Love, Salvation | Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

In the relationships of our lives we will most likely accumulate innumerable acquaintances, but at the same time will not acquire many relationships with people I would classify as true friends.  I believe as we navigate through each season of life, we meet and enjoy being around countless individuals, but true friendships are rare.

Sure, we would like to say we have true friendships in our lives, but what does true friendship really mean?  Dictionary.com indicates that a friend is a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard, or a person who gives assistance.  The longer we have been on the earth, the greater number of relationships we will develop with people along the way, giving us the opportunity of having true friends.  Unfortunately, many times life takes a sharp turn, altering our course.  At this junction, we may find the friendship we thought was developing is now a forgotten memory.  Job changes, school, finances, divorce, death, many of life’s unknowns approach us when we least expect them, putting an end to what may have become a true friendship.

In addition to those circumstances that may or may not be in our control, the attitude of so many people in our society is one of self centeredness and selfishness.  Many of us are unwilling to give beyond what is necessary to keep our relationships in a friendly mode, due to the “what’s in it for me” lifestyle we may be engaged in.  It is “status quo” to consider how are relationships are worth having assuming we receive some benefit from it.  This type of perspective towards relationships is a dangerous one, as we soon find we do not have the true friendships we thought we had.  When a time of need approaches in our lives, we find who may or may not be a true friend.  If our “need” will put someone else out in their life, including their time or treasure, then we may discover they can’t fulfill our expectations.

In my life, my family moved all over the country, especially as a child and during my teen years.  Of all the people I met as a child and teen, I can not account for any acquaintances or friendships that have endured from those relationships.  All of the hundreds of people I knew as I grew up are but a distant memory on the path of my life.  As an adult, I have been blessed with a large number of relationships and consider many of these individuals, true friends.

One of my closest friends in life, whom I met in 1988, recently passed away from a tragic automobile accident here in Gilbert, Arizona.  His name is Gary Kudela, and he was a man who cared about others, almost to a fault.  He would do anything he could for those in his sphere of influence.  My family and I loved him dearly, as he was like a brother to me.  We watched each others children be born and grow up to become adults.  We went on family vacations together, laughed together, cried together, got crazy together, and got into trouble together.  He was someone I would do anything for, as he was a man I loved and cared for deeply.

Gary was always there when you needed someone to talk to, hang out with, or lend a hand.  He was the type of man who would give you the shirt off of his back in order to satisfy a need of someone he knew.  He participated in life with many people, enjoying golf, watching sporting events, drinking coffee, eating and drinking a good beer.  He was a true friend in the rarest way, for in all my life he was one of only a few people, other than my family, whom I can say were always there for me, always offering me anything I may need when I was down.

A few years ago, Gary began to question who God was, what the Bible said, and about how he would get to heaven.  He asked me questions about Jesus, about who Jesus was, about what part Jesus played in Gary getting to heaven.  Gary said that he was a good guy, but realized that he was also guilty of many wrongs and faults, as we all are.  He knew that he was not perfect, and was in need of redemption in order to have a way to heaven.  Gary knew it was true what Romans 3:23 (ESV) says, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”. Gary also believed what Jesus said in John 14:1 (ESV), “I Am the Way, and the Truth, and the Life, Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.”  Soon afterwards, Gary made the decision to trust Jesus with his salvation, in turn guaranteeing his path to heaven.

In Gary’s relationship with Jesus, he found a true friendship.  He trusted he would be forgiven for all of his faults.  He knew God would take care of him, even though he was not perfect, for none of us are.  Towards the end of his life, Gary spent time developing the most important relationship, the friendship he had with the creator.  He knew that the importance of having a relationship with God and a true friendship with His son Jesus was a top priority.  I am grateful that I will see Gary when I pass from this life and onto the next with him and Jesus in Heaven.  Jesus has prepared a place for all of us, and it is His desire that we have a strong relationship with Him, while developing that relationship into becoming one considered a true friendshipTrue friendships are rare in life, but in the end, the relationship that matters most when considering whether or not it is a true friendship is the one we may or may not have with the creator of the universe.  We must have a true friendship with our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. If you do not, I suggest you stop what you are doing now, and bring close a relationship with Jesus, asking Him to forgive you for your sins, and ensuring a ticket to eternity with God in heaven. Amen. I will see you again in Heaven, Gary.

May God be your closest and truest friend,

Daryl Dho

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