Happy Mother’s Day-A Husband’s Perspective

Posted on May 9, 2010. Filed under: Creation, Family, Marriage, Mothers, Sacrifice | Tags: , , , , |

We all have mothers.  But, I am sure many of you have different opinions concerning who your mom is, and what your mom represents in your life.  Some of you never knew your birth mom, some have an adopted mom, some of your mom’s left you of mom and say-

“Happy Mother’s Day”- from a husband’s perspective!

You may be asking yourself, why is he telling us about mom’s from a husband’s perspective?  The answer is quite simple, really.  You see, after getting married, it is like I have two moms now.  I say that because while I grew up at home with my parents, my mom filled that necessary roll in my life.  This next statement may throw some for a loop, but shouldn’t if you really look into your heart.  Most men are just big kids, so our wives take on this role of being like a mom to us.

My mom and my wife are everything you can imagine a mom would be.  Here is a list of things representing what a mom is to me.

1. She is your house for 9 months.
2. She eats for two, as her body grows at a pace she had never thought possible, and now, the clothes she use to wear that made her feel “hot” do not fit anymore.
3. In willing to suffer great pain and agony while giving birth, many times screaming and crying very loud during the process, she is blessed with a calming in her spirit as her newborn enters this world, and she is told-It’s a boy or It’s a girl for the first time.  All the pain goes away, becoming tears of joy as she holds her newborn.
4. She nurses and feeds the baby, getting up in the middle of the night when it cries.
5. Does the dishes.
6. Cooks the meal.
7. Does the laundry.
8. Pays the bills.
9. Cleans the house.
10. Takes care of the yard.
11. Is a nurse to everyone in the house.
12. Is the one person in the house everyone leans on or snuggles up to, because she is a greater comforter.
13. She reads to the children.
14. Helps them with their homework.
15. Gets excited when the kids tell her about their schoolwork or project.
16. Always goes to the kid’s events, such as sports, music, dance, or other performances.
17. Keeps peace in the house.
18. Always seems to know the right thing to say, at a time you need to hear it.
19. Tucks you in at night, making you feel cozy.
20. Can talk to you on phone as long as you need to.
21. Is understanding when you make a mistake; you just don’t want to get Mom mad.

22. She prays for everyone.

23. She is the greatest nurturer of all time.

24. Does all these things and gets paid NOTHING!

25. All these things, and works 40 hours at another job.

26. And a million other thankless duties……………..

Here is the bottom line, mom’s do everything there is to do in a household, without complaining, without thoughts of her own well being, without thoughts of “what’s in it for me”, by putting the needs of others before herself, always willing to sacrifice for the greater good of the family.  The original mom, Eve, was giving by God to Adam to be his helper. In the Bible, in Genesis (Gen 2:18; 21-22), we read, “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”  So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.  And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.

I am grateful God gave me my mom and my wife, who both do all of those things listed above, and a whole lot more.  If I wrote everything a mom does in this article, I would be writing forever.  The most important aspect of what a mom does is love.  Mom’s truly care for and have unconditional love for those God has put in their lives.  Moms live a life of sacrifice, full of love and compassion, nurturing their families as long as they physically can on this earth.

In a sense, I have two moms.  My mom, who gave birth to me, still cares for, loves, guides and directs me in my life, always wanted to nurture me, it’s in her nature.  My wife fills the role of caring for my children, plus caring for me, the big kid, because of her unconditional love for us, and her nurturing way.

God made moms special, and for that there are not enough thanks to go around.  Make sure you tell those who fill this role in your life that you love them today.

Happy Mother’s Day

May God bless your day,

Daryl Dho

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Please Help Pray For And Finance Africa Mission Trip

Posted on April 7, 2010. Filed under: Children, Faith, Family, Friendship, Glory, God, Justice, Love, Mercy, Sacrifice | Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Recently, I was presented with the opportunity to go to Malawi, which is in the southeast portion of Africa.  It borders Tanzania on the East and Mozambique on the West.  My church, Mission Community Church, in partnership with the organization, Somebody Cares, has taken the approach that we truly are the hands and feet of Christ.  I am joining a team on July 9th through July 24th to help where God sees fit to best serve the needs of the people there.  Our destination is the village of Chikudzulire, where previous teams from our church have had the opportunity to assist in the completion of a well for clean drinking water and the construction of a feeding center and community center to provide for more than 900 local children who have been orphaned by the AIDS pandemic.  There are many opportunities our team may assist with while we are there; for which our Trip Focus will include building relationships and to be a support with the people of Chikudzulire and other villages; and to address the issues widows, women and orphans face each day.  Our Trip Purpose will be to organize and conduct rape/crisis counseling conferences; and to teach and train on women’s issues of hygiene, sex education, childcare and other topics as needed; along with additional projects as directed through the staff of Somebody Cares.  Most importantly we’ll get to show the amazing love of Jesus to some of the most hurting and impoverished people on the planet. The trip will personally challenge me to things I’ve never dreamed of and surely will change my life forever.  

Each individual team member will need approximately $3,000 to fully fund this trip.  Any funds that are donated will directly help us to cover airfare, food, lodging and local transportation, as well as supplies for aiding the children in the villages that we will visit.   I have no idea how God will work to provide the funds for me, but I know He has something incredible to teach me while we are there and through the fundraising process.  He surely will provide.  I feel compelled to provide hands-on help to these children in Malawi, and I am thankful that God is opening doors to allow this to happen.   So, do you want to participate with me on an African Mission trip?

This is where you come in.  I am writing to all of you since you are my friends and already supporters of me personally in my life.  I ask that you would consider offering a financial gift, not because I need it; for God doesn’t need any help from you or I. I’m asking you specifically because I want to invite you to participate with me in this step of faith and see what God does with what you can give.  Equally important is prayer support for safety on the trip, the strength of the team, and the hearts of the Malawi people.  May God keep us safe and work through us and in the lives of those we go to serve. As the trip nears, I’ll provide further information where you can prayerfully follow along through an online blog and photo-journal while we are in Malawi.  Thank for your love and support for allowing your resources to dramatically change the lives of people in Africa.  All prayers and any financial support will be a blessing to the ministry.  Even as little as $10 can go a long way.

If you would prefer to donate securely online, please go to http://www.Africa.mission68.org and select the “Give” tab on the far right.  Set up a quick login account if you don’t already have one and follow the simple prompts.  Select the trip which I am participating and input my name, amount of donation and payment info.  If needed, please contact me for additional instructions or details about giving online.

IMPORTANT Please make all checks payable to “ Mission Community Church “ and leave the memo line BLANK, but attach a note indicating my name, Daryl Dho, so my account will be credited.  You can mail your check the following address:

Daryl Dho
10141 E. Kilarea Ave.
Mesa, AZ  85209

Micah 6:8 He has showed you, O man, what is good.
And what does the Lord require of you?  To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.

May God Bless You All,

Daryl Dho

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Life’s Little Bundles Of Joy

Posted on March 18, 2010. Filed under: Children, Creation, Family, God, Love | Tags: , , , , |

Today was a fun day, as I took a leisurely drive with my Mom and Wife on a picturesque two-lane mountain road outside of Payson, Arizona to a little town called Pine.  Yes, to answer your question, there are some pine trees in Pine, Arizona.  We looked around at some of the antique shops, which to me seemed like overgrown garage sales.  I sense maybe some of the people who own these antiques shops go to many garage sales, seeking the next “hot item” for their stores.  But, all in all, it was a fun time just walking around, as we ventured through several stores, prior to completing our visit to the quaint little town by having a late lunch in one of the restaurants, which was an antique itself, and at some point, converted from an old house.

Next stop on our journey was to my nephew’s house in Payson.  My nephew and his wife have 3 children, ages 7, 2, and 5 months.  Of course, all three children have extremely distinctive personalities, not only because God has made each and every one of us uniquely special, but also due to their age differences.

As I watched the children play, run around, act shy, and say whatever came into their inquisitive little minds, I experienced a diversity of emotions.  My three children, who are now 22, 19, and 16 years of age, were, as babies, yesterday’s life’s little bundles of joy. Seeing my nephew’s children, remembering my own children growing up, as well as recalling when my nephew was born, really gave me a sense of joy.  Yes, we had 4 generations in the house at the same time, which amazed me as I negotiated through the passing years of life in my mind.  At some point in our lives, we were all life’s little bundles of joy, for those who brought us into this world.

How incredible our life cycle is.  One day we are but a thought in someone’s mind, and the next we are crawling, walking, and talking, until the day comes when we continue the cycle of life with our own multiplication into the next generation.  God told Adam to be fruitful and multiply in Genesis.  Year after year, generation after generation, this has continued as the world’s population of families continues to grow.  How beautiful our world is when we gaze upon life’s little bundles of joy, which are smiling, giggling, and developing their own distinct personalities.

The next time you see a baby, take a moment to reminisce about when you were a baby yourself, how your parents were babies before you knew them, and if you have been blessed to have had your own children, then take satisfaction in the joy of their lives, their growing up to become adults, and the day where they will fulfill what God says in Genesis 1:28 ESV, “And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

Yes, babies are life’s little bundles of joy, so when you see one, take the time to enjoy them, take the time to think about how intricate their little bodies are, and how God has created each and every one of them in His image.  Then, love them, and love them, and love them until the day you depart this earth.

May God bless your days with life’s little bundles of joy,

Daryl Dho

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I Think I Will Take The Easy Way Out.

Posted on March 16, 2010. Filed under: Family, God, Love, Marriage, Personal Happiness, Weddings | Tags: , , , , , |

“I think I will take the easy way out!” Okay, I’m sure my statement confuses you, plus you are probably wondering what I am talking about, and where I am going with these thoughts.  Well, it is quite simple really; I am planning on living a long time and getting old together with my wife.  We have already been married over 24 years, which has not always been easy, but it certainly has been an exciting adventure.  Going through life is an adventure no matter how we look at it, so I might as well have a partner I enjoy experiencing the ride with.

If I offend you with what I am going to say next, then I apologize for that, but I am not sorry for speaking what I would consider the truth.  You see, in our culture, we have made it simply too easy to bail out on marriages as soon as we feel that it is not going the way we had planned.  Unfortunately, I do not know anyone, except for God, who knows what is going to happen next in his or her lives.  If we truly believe that our happiness is based on our ability to negotiate a path through life which does not have any left turns, right turns, or 180’s, then we need to have another look around, seek another perspective, and probably embrace the reality that we cannot, under any circumstances, make life go exactly the way we would like it or plan it, there are just too many variables.

The problem is, especially evident in our culture; we believe we can draw up the perfect plan for our lives, one that we can control, as if we were the only person on the planet.  Well, we certainly will not be able to control every outcome in life, considering all of the people in the world making decisions based on emotions, conditions, plans, and hopes, etc. There really is no way we will be able to dial-up every aspect of our lives in a way where the end result will be “exactly according to Hoyle”, as the saying goes.

Of course, this holds true when two people come together in marriage.  Personally, I believe in the commitment I made to my wife when we got married, committed to a life of richer or poorer, health or sickness, happiness or sorrow; I am committed to participating in life’s adventure until we grow old together.  Jesus said in Matthew 19:9 ESV, “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”  I recognize there are circumstances such as abuse, when a spouse could be in harm’s way if they were to stay with in their marriage.  But, by and large, I am convinced that if couples would work together, putting God first in their lives, they would be able to accomplish what was said in most wedding ceremonies, which is they stay together “till death do us part.”

To me the bottom line is the fact that in our culture too many people do not fulfill their commitment to their marriages.  It is too convenient to dissolve a marriage and move on.  People think when they get a divorce, in order to pursue a different avenue in life, which may include another mate, they are taking the easy way out.  I do not believe they are taking the easy way out when a divorce comes so easy, but rather a road to incomplete fulfillment of a life of happiness with someone they supposedly once loved.  Staying with your spouse, working through any difficulties you may have seems to the best way to have a life full of love and worth.  Yes, I think I will take the easy way out, and stay with my wife until we grow old together.

May you have a committed life with whomever God has put you in a relationship with,

Daryl Dho

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Helping Others Around The World

Posted on March 15, 2010. Filed under: Children, Family, Mercy, Sacrifice | Tags: , , , |

In our culture, it is easy for us to complain about the current conditions of our life such as a bad economy, broken relationships, disliking our working environment, not enough money, or home foreclosures.  But, for most of us, we still have favorable living conditions compared to a large percentage of the world.  We have high-definition television, computers, video games, movie theaters, cars, theme parks, and more conveniences than I could include in a single blog.  I know there are many, even in our country, whom are suffering in poverty; but as a society, we are blessed beyond measure.  I believe many would agree we squander a large portion of our wealth on non essentials, causing us to have diminished bank accounts.  Because of the way we waste our resources in America, including not saving like we should, we have far too little left over at the end of each month.  It could easily be said, without argument, that most us have too much debt and our spending habits are far too frivolous.

Today, about 40 high school kids and adults from our church left on a trip to Tijuana, Mexico in order to help people in that community who do not have any shelter to live in.  Now, I understand this type of ministry has been happening in that area for years, but every time I see someone help others, if for no other reason than just to give them aid, I feel good.  Prior to leaving this morning, the youth group leader from our church gathered everyone together and made this statement, “we are never more like Jesus than when we serve.”  This reminded me of a passage in Matthew 25:40, where Jesus makes the claim concerning giving aid to those in need, “Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.”  Jesus has a desire for us to be helping others around the world, and when we do, it is as if we are helping Him.

Our young high schoolers will be gone for about 6 days, will build several shelters, hang out with kids in an orphanage, and most likely will be a light of hope to those they come in contact with, as they share the love they have for Jesus to a world permeating with poverty.  I was fortunate enough to go on a similar trip a few years ago, which left me questioning my own selfishness, greed, and lack of awareness of people who are in need of help, both locally and abroad.  Helping others around the world should be a concern for us all.  Certainly, we can all make sacrifices of our own needs to assist someone who most likely has a situation far more challenging than our own.  I know for myself and my family, we have more conveniences and luxuries than we need, and I get convicted of it every time I pay attention to others in the world who are left without.  My plea to each and every one who reads this blog, including myself, is to examine your own situation, see where you might be able to sacrifice for a greater need, and take the plunge into a sea of worthy causes that are available.  This is what Jesus would want us to do.

The beautiful exchange we all will receive when we sacrifice of our own, in order to help others around the world, will be love and a peace which cannot be measured.  When we are generous with our time, treasure, and talent, it is rewarding to see those who benefit. We also benefit because of the satisfaction we receive from knowing we have put a smile on a child’s face, give a parent the ability to give clean water or food to a loved one, and of course the capacity to shelter their family from the elements.  If this was a MasterCard commercial, the value for what we receive when we sacrifice for others is “Priceless”! So, I appeal to each and every one of us to consider how we can sacrifice of our own while helping others around the world.

May you be blessed and may your days be “Priceless”,

Daryl Dho

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Have You Called Your Mom Today?

Posted on January 17, 2010. Filed under: Communication, Family, Forgiveness, Friendship, Love | Tags: , , , , , |

For years, a close friend of mine told me he called his Mom every day.  She lived in another state, so he did not have the opportunity to see her very often.  According to my friend, their conversations were not that long, but were meaningful.  If you keep reading this post, you will discover why their conversations were so meaningful.  Unfortunately, his Mom passed away around Christmas, and he passed away last week from a car accident.  My friend would call in the morning, before work, and they would talk for awhile discussing what was going on in their lives.  He loved his Mom, and calling her every day was one way he showed her his love.  Of course, if you don’t call your Mom every day, that does not mean you do not love her, but it can’t hurt!  If you don’t mind, I want to you ask a question; have you called your Mom today? I understand for some of you who have lost your Mom, or do not know your Mom, this may be difficult, and for that I apologize.  But, you have others in your life you care for and love, others who you may need to call today.

I know most of us realize life is short, and the older we get the faster time seems to go by, but what are we doing to capitalize on every moment life has to offer?  Some time ago, I developed a theory as to why life seems to go by faster the older we get.  You see, if you take 1 year of your life when you are 5 years old, that 1 year is 20% of your life.  But, when you are 50 years old, 1 year is only 2% of your life span.  As we get older, a year of our life is a much smaller percentage to our overall years of life on this earth, therefore creating this idea or thought in our head that life is going by faster.  It really is not going by any faster, but seems to be going faster, due to the percentage of time we are measuring being a smaller percentage to our overall age as time goes by.  When we turn 100 years old, which I know is a long shot, then 1 year will be 1% of our total life.  So, a 5 year old does not have many life experiences to measure a year of time with, while a person 75 has 15 times as many years and occurrences in life to measure.  That is my theory.  With those thoughts, we certainly do not want to waste any of our precious and valuable time here on earth, but rather use it wisely, placing value on all of the relationships we have, whereby putting those relationships at the top our list of priorities, or “bucket list”.  Have you called your Mom today?

Since we all should understand time goes by way too fast, therefore desiring not to waste any of it, we need make sure we spend quality time with those we love and care for.  We never know when the minute, hour, or day will come in our lives when we will pass on from this life to the next.  It is imperative then, that we realize life is full of the unknown, including when our physical life will end.  Therefore, without exception, we should treat every moment, every hour and every day as if it may be the last.  Have you called your Mom today?

We should never stay angry with anyone, never go to bed after an argument with a family member or friend, never leave the house in the middle of an argument, until we resolve our dispute.  Holding a grudge or internalizing negative feelings towards others, does not serve any positive purpose.  We need to clear the air, acknowledging what wrong we have done, asking for forgiveness, and then move on.  Harboring hateful or hostile feelings towards others just puts us in an unfavorable place to be, one that can only bring misery and despair to both parties.  It is always best to put aside our pride, be the bigger person, and admitting fault, even if we are not wrong, or believe we are not wrong.  Have you called your Mom today?

Having a dispute with people we care about is not something I believe any of us delight in, but we allow our foolish pride to get in the way, therefore blurring our vision and our ability to make the proper decision about the resolution of the strife that exists between us.  Usually, these quarrels are a disagreement over something with no major importance.  Many times, we can’t even remember how they started in the first place.  Again, we are allowing our pride to take control of our life; whereby we neglect the most important part of the equation, the continuance of our relationship with the person we are in conflict with.  It is not worth existing in an environment which could be considered hostile.  Make the necessary adjustments to rectify what the problem is; then make up with the person and move on.  Life is short.  Have you called your Mom today?

This life goes by in a blink of an eye.  At the end of our lives, nothing we have will go with us, not our money, our cars, our house, our TV, none of it.  Everything we have will stay here on earth, be given to someone else, and eventually will disappear.  What is most important in this life are two things, as Jesus said in Matthew 22:37-39 (ESV), “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.  This is the great and first commandment.  And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”  We must care more about our relationships in this life than the pursuit of the temporal aspects of this world which seem so enticing.  Caring for others, including our parents, our spouse, our children, and our friends, should be our priority.  Nothing else matters in the end. Have you called your Mom today?

Jesus consistently talked about how we should love one another, as he said in John 13:34, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.”  If we care more for others than ourselves, the reward we receive in return far outweighs what we think we are losing by giving.  This attitude of giving for others carries with it a prize of fulfillment, for when we care for one another, we receive a warming spirit in our lives, an intangible gift that is more wonderful than any physical thing the world can provide.  Have you called your Mom today?

Life is short, do not waste any of it.  Work always towards the building of relationships with your family and friends.  If we put our stock in the relationships of our lives, we will leave behind a legacy that can go on forever, generation to generation, as the thoughts and memories of how we cared for others will be carried on.  If we put our stock in the tangible things of this world, we will only be remembered as long as the stuff we leave behind exists.  Beyond that time, our memories will deteriorate as did our wealth.  Spend this life with people.  Have you called your Mom today?

May God bless your life with an abundance of loving relationships,

Daryl Dho

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True Friendships Are Rare

Posted on January 12, 2010. Filed under: Creation, Faith, Family, Forgiveness, Friendship, Heaven, Love, Salvation | Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

In the relationships of our lives we will most likely accumulate innumerable acquaintances, but at the same time will not acquire many relationships with people I would classify as true friends.  I believe as we navigate through each season of life, we meet and enjoy being around countless individuals, but true friendships are rare.

Sure, we would like to say we have true friendships in our lives, but what does true friendship really mean?  Dictionary.com indicates that a friend is a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard, or a person who gives assistance.  The longer we have been on the earth, the greater number of relationships we will develop with people along the way, giving us the opportunity of having true friends.  Unfortunately, many times life takes a sharp turn, altering our course.  At this junction, we may find the friendship we thought was developing is now a forgotten memory.  Job changes, school, finances, divorce, death, many of life’s unknowns approach us when we least expect them, putting an end to what may have become a true friendship.

In addition to those circumstances that may or may not be in our control, the attitude of so many people in our society is one of self centeredness and selfishness.  Many of us are unwilling to give beyond what is necessary to keep our relationships in a friendly mode, due to the “what’s in it for me” lifestyle we may be engaged in.  It is “status quo” to consider how are relationships are worth having assuming we receive some benefit from it.  This type of perspective towards relationships is a dangerous one, as we soon find we do not have the true friendships we thought we had.  When a time of need approaches in our lives, we find who may or may not be a true friend.  If our “need” will put someone else out in their life, including their time or treasure, then we may discover they can’t fulfill our expectations.

In my life, my family moved all over the country, especially as a child and during my teen years.  Of all the people I met as a child and teen, I can not account for any acquaintances or friendships that have endured from those relationships.  All of the hundreds of people I knew as I grew up are but a distant memory on the path of my life.  As an adult, I have been blessed with a large number of relationships and consider many of these individuals, true friends.

One of my closest friends in life, whom I met in 1988, recently passed away from a tragic automobile accident here in Gilbert, Arizona.  His name is Gary Kudela, and he was a man who cared about others, almost to a fault.  He would do anything he could for those in his sphere of influence.  My family and I loved him dearly, as he was like a brother to me.  We watched each others children be born and grow up to become adults.  We went on family vacations together, laughed together, cried together, got crazy together, and got into trouble together.  He was someone I would do anything for, as he was a man I loved and cared for deeply.

Gary was always there when you needed someone to talk to, hang out with, or lend a hand.  He was the type of man who would give you the shirt off of his back in order to satisfy a need of someone he knew.  He participated in life with many people, enjoying golf, watching sporting events, drinking coffee, eating and drinking a good beer.  He was a true friend in the rarest way, for in all my life he was one of only a few people, other than my family, whom I can say were always there for me, always offering me anything I may need when I was down.

A few years ago, Gary began to question who God was, what the Bible said, and about how he would get to heaven.  He asked me questions about Jesus, about who Jesus was, about what part Jesus played in Gary getting to heaven.  Gary said that he was a good guy, but realized that he was also guilty of many wrongs and faults, as we all are.  He knew that he was not perfect, and was in need of redemption in order to have a way to heaven.  Gary knew it was true what Romans 3:23 (ESV) says, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”. Gary also believed what Jesus said in John 14:1 (ESV), “I Am the Way, and the Truth, and the Life, Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.”  Soon afterwards, Gary made the decision to trust Jesus with his salvation, in turn guaranteeing his path to heaven.

In Gary’s relationship with Jesus, he found a true friendship.  He trusted he would be forgiven for all of his faults.  He knew God would take care of him, even though he was not perfect, for none of us are.  Towards the end of his life, Gary spent time developing the most important relationship, the friendship he had with the creator.  He knew that the importance of having a relationship with God and a true friendship with His son Jesus was a top priority.  I am grateful that I will see Gary when I pass from this life and onto the next with him and Jesus in Heaven.  Jesus has prepared a place for all of us, and it is His desire that we have a strong relationship with Him, while developing that relationship into becoming one considered a true friendshipTrue friendships are rare in life, but in the end, the relationship that matters most when considering whether or not it is a true friendship is the one we may or may not have with the creator of the universe.  We must have a true friendship with our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. If you do not, I suggest you stop what you are doing now, and bring close a relationship with Jesus, asking Him to forgive you for your sins, and ensuring a ticket to eternity with God in heaven. Amen. I will see you again in Heaven, Gary.

May God be your closest and truest friend,

Daryl Dho

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Marriage is a Roller Coaster Ride, So Stay Committed to the Adventure

Posted on December 30, 2009. Filed under: Adversity, Family, Forgiveness, Friendship, Love, Marriage, Weddings | Tags: , , , , , , , |

Life is similar to riding on a roller coaster, and marriage, being the union of two individuals, is no different.  When two people come together as one, they choose to play a role in each others story together, engaged in the ups and downs of the roller coaster ride we call life.  Since life is jam packed with the unknown, at times bearing its ugly side upon us when we are not looking, all of us should be prepared for what lurks next in our day, week, month, or year.

Most of us would like to write our own story of what will happen in life, they are called dreams.  As a child, we begin to dream about how we will spend our lives in our vocations, who we will be married to, or where we will travel.  We want to pattern our life with the things which we believe are valuable, so we attempt to plan ahead exactly how our lives will progress, and how we will take each step of our journey.  When we finally meet “Mr. or Mrs. Right”, we put together a big vision of how our lives will proceed from that point on, including all of the fairy tale aspects we have dreamed of and how perfect all of the facets of our story will be savored.  It is during this dreaming where many of us fail to realize life, including marriage, is a roller coaster ride, and we need to stay committed to the adventure.

On the 28th of December, 2009, my wife and I celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary.  As I reflect on the last 24 years of our lives together, with all its joys, triumphs, struggles, and mishaps, I grasp an important truth.  My life, or should I state, our lives, has not proceeded, “according to hoyle”, as the saying goes.  When I began my life as an adult, in time getting married, I had many different plans I desired to be fulfilled, many dreams of how the story of our lives would be written.  Then we began making choices, which at the time we believed were in accordance with our plans, to bring us into our reality of how we could accomplish our dreams.  Many of our plans resulted in failure, or were abandoned.  But there is one aspect of my life that is a huge blessing to me and continues to be successful; my marriage.  It is still vital and wonderful, as my wife and I believe in the commitment of marriage; “til death do us part”, as the wedding vows stated.  I acknowledged many years ago the fact that marriage is a roller coaster ride, so I decided to stay committed to the adventure.

There are no guarantees in life, and we are not promised wealth, fame, or love.  When we are fortunate to have accomplished any of our dreams, we may begin to think we have “made it”.  But, we certainly can all attest to the fact that on the roller coaster ride we call life, what goes up, at some point, must come down.  It’s how we deal with life when we have these struggles that I believe makes a difference in our happiness.  Most people can cope with life when things are going their way, but how do we manage the inevitable difficulties and obstacles we are faced with at some point during our adventure?  How we choose to engage in these activities, which can be very challenging and difficult, is critical to our happiness.  Marriage, being a part of many peoples lives, is a roller coaster ride, so stay committed to the adventure.

Unfortunately, when many married couples find themselves in a situation that doesn’t go along with what they believe is their dream life, then they want to bail out.  At times, all of us have troubles, but many do not want to acknowledge this, because it doesn’t fit into our dreams and plan of life.  So, for many married couples, divorce happens.  During the last 24 years of my adventure with my wife, we have had many ups and downs, joys and sorrows, accomplished dreams and had failure.  But, at the end of the day, I still have her by my side, because we are committed to each other, to our marriage, and to the love we share in our family.  When I married my wife 24 years ago, I married my best friend, not someone who is disposable.  She stands by me, and I by her during every day of our lives, without condition.  I trust, and give trust, I forgive and am forgiven, I love, and am loved, and this is how we make it through every day of our adventure.

In the Bible, Genesis 2:24 (ESV) states, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”  This sacred union is one that should not be taken lightly, but I feel many do.  It becomes convenient for many in our society to throw their marriage into “the muck” when dealt an unfavorable hand, for they have lost the ideal of the commitment made on their wedding day.  Many choose to forget the vows they made, neglecting to continue the lifelong commitment.  Matthew 19:6 talks about our marriage commitment as it says, “So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”  If we do not seriously acknowledge that commitment, as well as the fact that marriage is suppose to be a sacred union designated by God, then I believe we will struggle when an obstacle comes in our path.

I enjoy my life and my wife, as she has given me a lifelong commitment of caring, forgiveness, love, and togetherness.  I believe that is what we all want, someone to share life with.  No one wants to be alone, for life is easier when we have a partner.  It is all the more better when that person is our best friend, the one who will do anything for us, even to the death.  My encouragement to those who may be struggling with your marriage is this; remember what you were thinking about when you first got married, and go back there.  Instill in your marriage trust, forgiveness, and love, in order that you will once again recognize the commitment to each other you made in the beginning.  Life and marriage is a roller coaster ride, so stay committed to the adventure.

May your journey through the adventure of life be blessed,

Daryl Dho

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The Christmas Present; Our Journey to the Celebration is Complete

Posted on December 25, 2009. Filed under: Children, Christmas, Family, Forgiveness, Righteousness, Sacrifice, Salvation | Tags: , , , , , , , |

A little boy, 10 years of age and his younger sisters, ages 8 and 5, quietly tiptoed down the hallway of the two story suburban home, whispering to each other, with the oldest girl asking the boy, “are they up yet?”  The boy ignored the question as he lead the two girls down the stairs very slowly, but with purpose, because they wanted to see if Santa Claus had come the night before, bringing them presents.  They were sure there would be presents under the Christmas tree, for most certainly they had been nice this year and were never naughty.  They thought this as they were doing what their parents told them not to do before they went to bed on Christmas Eve night; they were instructed not to go down the stairs before their parents were awake.  But the those instructions did not keep them from the quest of seeing the presents.

As they approached the bottom of the stairs, the youngest girl stumbled, and squeaked out a little shriek.  This action instantly halted the other two children in their tracks.  The boy told the girl to be quiet, then asked her if she was okay.  Of course she was fine as they continued on their journey down the stairs, making a turn and entering the living room, where the Christmas Tree was standing tall and the lights were glowing as it was still dark since it was only about 6 A.M.  When they entered the room, all three children stood there, gazing at all of the presents sitting under the tree, which Santa had carefully set on the floor below the tree.  The lights glistened and reflected off the wrapping paper of the presents, as the three children were now examining to see which ones were theirs. A little chatter was heard amongst the children concerning what they thought might be in the presents, as the oldest girl said to the boy, “let’s go wake up Mom and Dad”.

So, they hurried back up the stairs, down the hallway, opened the door to their parents room, and proceeded to yell and scream, “Santa came, Santa came”, then jumping up and down on the bed.  The Mom and Dad were startled, yet not surprised, as they were expecting this to happen this chilly Christmas morning.  They had finally finished wrapping the presents about 12:15 A.M. the night before, and as it was now 6:05 A.M., they were a little tired, but in the same sense wide awake, as their children were bringing an air of excitement into the room due to their knowledge of what was downstairs underneath the tree. Before we go further, just to clarify, Santa is not real.  I hope I have not just bursted your bubble about the Santa situation, but the parents are Santa.  Yes, every year the parents have to buy, wrap and position the presents underneath the tree.  So that is that, now you know the truth about how the presents get under the tree.  The fun begins.

But what is the greatest, most spectacular and wonderful present you have ever received? Was it a bike, race car set, doll, or something else, like………..? As we conclude this Christmas series about the journey to the celebration, we have to establish what the most perfect present is, the one present that surpasses all other presents as the most memorable present of all time.  As we noted earlier, the presents do not come from Santa, there is not a mystery guy who flies around the earth in one night on a sleigh, bringing all of the children in the world toys.  Yes, the parents put the presents under the tree, and on one night in history, the Father of creation brought us the most perfect present. This present existed before the beginning, before time began as we know it. God sent to earth the baby Jesus, to be born of the virgin Mary in a manger in Bethlehem.  The Christmas present was the son of God, the savior of the world, and we would celebrate His birth forever. Our journey to the celebration is complete, for we have found the perfect present, that of our redeemer.

What a glorious night it was when Jesus was born. As humans in need of a savior, God chose to love and care for us, providing a way we could be with Him for eternity in heaven.  The Bible tells us in Romans 3:10-11 (ESV), “None is righteous, no, not one; no one understands; no one seeks for God.”  Then, of course we all have heard what Romans 3:23 says, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”,  We all are in need of a savior, which God provided as the first Christmas present. Jesus, both God and now man, came to the earth to be with us, to walk with us, to die for us on the cross at Calvary. There is not a present, either past, present, or future that will come close to matching the grandeur and splendor of the present that God the Father sent us that one night 2000 years ago. Jesus is The Christmas Present!

I implore all of you who have read my Christmas series to spend time today reflecting about the real reason for Christmas, the real story, the real Christmas present, that of Jesus Christ, who takes away the sins of the world. When we take the time to reflect on Him who saves us from all unrighteousness, then and only then can we truly understand what a perfect gift we have received.  We are not worthy of being in the presence of God on our own accord.  We must have a mediator to pave the way for us, to intercede on our behalf, in order to be cleansed of our sins, becoming children of God, and working towards a righteousness in Christ.  The Christmas present, Jesus, was sent here for you and me to die for our sins, let us not ignore this fact on Christmas 2009.

If you know Jesus as Lord and savior, then reflect on Him now, giving thanks for the present He gave you.  If you do not know Jesus, then I pray and ask that you seek Him out now, that you confess your sins, and be cleansed by the savior of the world.  Jesus is waiting for all who do not know Him to come in repentance, seeking forgiveness and existence for eternity with God.  Jesus is the perfect Christmas present, He is the only present we need this Christmas day.  Seek Him now, He is patiently waiting for you.

May God bless you this day and every day forward.

Your friend and follower of the Lord Jesus Christ, Merry Christmas to you all,

Daryl Dho

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It’s a Wonderful Life; A Journey to the Celebration

Posted on December 22, 2009. Filed under: Christmas, Faith, Family, Heaven, Personal Happiness, Salvation | Tags: , , , , , , |

In the movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life”, George Bailey, who was played by Jimmy Stewart seemed to have the perfect life, but as we all remember, he most certainly did not.  There are some in this world who, when the reality that life is not always as easy as they would like, decide they want to check out.  Many times, I believe this comes from where they put their priorities.  If we prioritize money and things we might obtain in our life, equating our happiness to how much we have, then due to the nature of life, we will surely be let down at some point.  We can not predict what will happen next in our lives, and therefore the unexpected happens, resulting in our either being let down, devastated financially, emotionally distraught, or just plain unhappy, all because we put our importance on the temporal things of this world.

So, because of the many variables in life, regardless of how great, capable, and together we might think we are, or how fantastic our life may seem to be going, it is inevitable that we will, at some point, be disappointed.  I think most people, if they truly search their inner thoughts and emotions in an honest way, will discover they know life is not perfect, and someday disasterous things will happen to them.  The problem therefore lies in the fact that most people just do not want to prepare for the impending negative consequence in their lives.  When that awful circumstance appears, many do not know how to handle it, choosing an even worse alternative, such as suicide, or hurting themselves and others.  Most of us have heard the old expression, people don’t plan to fail, they just fail to plan.  This expression seems simple enough to understand, but difficult to execute.

Jesus, who’s birthday party and celebration is this Friday, December 25, 2009, had a lot to say about this subject.  He told us in Matthew 6:19-21 (ESV), “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”  Jesus is telling us that we need to have our priorities straight.  Of course, we have all heard we need to do this, but most of us do not understand this concept the way Jesus describes it.  He is telling us we will be challenged in life if we put our priorities on the treasures of this earthly world, since none of them will last forever.  I believe when are describing our lives to someone, we can truly say with all honesty, “It’s a Wonderful Life”.  But, in order to say that expression honestly, we need to have our priorities on the things of heaven, which are eternal.

I was having a conversation this morning with my dentist, who I have been going to for about 12-13 years now, and the subject of our happiness came up, including if we had any regrets in our lives.  If you have read my Bio, then you know I have not always led what one would call a very wholesome life, including probably doing emotional damage to other people in the process, yet I told him I have no regrets, and I would not change one circumstance in my life.  My life was, excuse the expression, “all jacked up”, for a long time, but I still would not change a thing, because what transpired during my life, was just a part of my journey, part of what made me the Daryl I am today, part of the molding of the character of the man you here in my words today.  I have become a man who is passionate about people and their feelings, about how they will spend not only this life, but the next life through eternity.

Yes, when asked about my life, I would be able to truthfully affirm, “It’s a Wonderful Life”.  Not because I have billions, millions, or even thousands of dollars, not because I drive a fancy car, not because I have a great job, not because I am the smartest guy in the world, not because I am the envy of anyone, for none of those are true, but because of these two things: 1) I have a close relationship with God, the creator of the universe, who’s word in Ephesians 2:8 states, “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God”, thereby my sins are forgiven, and 2) I am continuously working on developing the relationships with those closest to me, such as my wife, children, and friends.

It is also my desire to do what Jesus commanded us when asked by the scribes which commandment is the most important in Mark 12:30-31, “And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”  What a role model and teacher Jesus was.  He knew that in order for us to have a wonderful life, we needed to be close with our creator.  He also desires that we have wonderful, beautiful relationships with those He created in His image, as described in (Genesis 1:26), therefore continuing our relationship with Him.  Jesus told us in Matthew 25:40, referencing how we should take care of the poor and needy, “as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.”

As we follow the example of Jesus, walking in His footsteps, we can be assured to have struggles in life, as He did.  But, most importantly, we can be assured of being able to state, in reference to the view of our own lives, “It’s a Wonderful Life”.  I can live with that, can you?  Hopefully the answer is yes, because when you can answer affirmatively, you begin to have the peace that only God can bestow in your heart, you begin to look at life with an entire new perspective, you begin to have that wonderful life which all of us truly desire.

May the journey you are on through life be blessed by God,

Daryl Dho

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