Have You Called Your Mom Today?

Posted on January 17, 2010. Filed under: Communication, Family, Forgiveness, Friendship, Love | Tags: , , , , , |

For years, a close friend of mine told me he called his Mom every day.  She lived in another state, so he did not have the opportunity to see her very often.  According to my friend, their conversations were not that long, but were meaningful.  If you keep reading this post, you will discover why their conversations were so meaningful.  Unfortunately, his Mom passed away around Christmas, and he passed away last week from a car accident.  My friend would call in the morning, before work, and they would talk for awhile discussing what was going on in their lives.  He loved his Mom, and calling her every day was one way he showed her his love.  Of course, if you don’t call your Mom every day, that does not mean you do not love her, but it can’t hurt!  If you don’t mind, I want to you ask a question; have you called your Mom today? I understand for some of you who have lost your Mom, or do not know your Mom, this may be difficult, and for that I apologize.  But, you have others in your life you care for and love, others who you may need to call today.

I know most of us realize life is short, and the older we get the faster time seems to go by, but what are we doing to capitalize on every moment life has to offer?  Some time ago, I developed a theory as to why life seems to go by faster the older we get.  You see, if you take 1 year of your life when you are 5 years old, that 1 year is 20% of your life.  But, when you are 50 years old, 1 year is only 2% of your life span.  As we get older, a year of our life is a much smaller percentage to our overall years of life on this earth, therefore creating this idea or thought in our head that life is going by faster.  It really is not going by any faster, but seems to be going faster, due to the percentage of time we are measuring being a smaller percentage to our overall age as time goes by.  When we turn 100 years old, which I know is a long shot, then 1 year will be 1% of our total life.  So, a 5 year old does not have many life experiences to measure a year of time with, while a person 75 has 15 times as many years and occurrences in life to measure.  That is my theory.  With those thoughts, we certainly do not want to waste any of our precious and valuable time here on earth, but rather use it wisely, placing value on all of the relationships we have, whereby putting those relationships at the top our list of priorities, or “bucket list”.  Have you called your Mom today?

Since we all should understand time goes by way too fast, therefore desiring not to waste any of it, we need make sure we spend quality time with those we love and care for.  We never know when the minute, hour, or day will come in our lives when we will pass on from this life to the next.  It is imperative then, that we realize life is full of the unknown, including when our physical life will end.  Therefore, without exception, we should treat every moment, every hour and every day as if it may be the last.  Have you called your Mom today?

We should never stay angry with anyone, never go to bed after an argument with a family member or friend, never leave the house in the middle of an argument, until we resolve our dispute.  Holding a grudge or internalizing negative feelings towards others, does not serve any positive purpose.  We need to clear the air, acknowledging what wrong we have done, asking for forgiveness, and then move on.  Harboring hateful or hostile feelings towards others just puts us in an unfavorable place to be, one that can only bring misery and despair to both parties.  It is always best to put aside our pride, be the bigger person, and admitting fault, even if we are not wrong, or believe we are not wrong.  Have you called your Mom today?

Having a dispute with people we care about is not something I believe any of us delight in, but we allow our foolish pride to get in the way, therefore blurring our vision and our ability to make the proper decision about the resolution of the strife that exists between us.  Usually, these quarrels are a disagreement over something with no major importance.  Many times, we can’t even remember how they started in the first place.  Again, we are allowing our pride to take control of our life; whereby we neglect the most important part of the equation, the continuance of our relationship with the person we are in conflict with.  It is not worth existing in an environment which could be considered hostile.  Make the necessary adjustments to rectify what the problem is; then make up with the person and move on.  Life is short.  Have you called your Mom today?

This life goes by in a blink of an eye.  At the end of our lives, nothing we have will go with us, not our money, our cars, our house, our TV, none of it.  Everything we have will stay here on earth, be given to someone else, and eventually will disappear.  What is most important in this life are two things, as Jesus said in Matthew 22:37-39 (ESV), “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.  This is the great and first commandment.  And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”  We must care more about our relationships in this life than the pursuit of the temporal aspects of this world which seem so enticing.  Caring for others, including our parents, our spouse, our children, and our friends, should be our priority.  Nothing else matters in the end. Have you called your Mom today?

Jesus consistently talked about how we should love one another, as he said in John 13:34, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.”  If we care more for others than ourselves, the reward we receive in return far outweighs what we think we are losing by giving.  This attitude of giving for others carries with it a prize of fulfillment, for when we care for one another, we receive a warming spirit in our lives, an intangible gift that is more wonderful than any physical thing the world can provide.  Have you called your Mom today?

Life is short, do not waste any of it.  Work always towards the building of relationships with your family and friends.  If we put our stock in the relationships of our lives, we will leave behind a legacy that can go on forever, generation to generation, as the thoughts and memories of how we cared for others will be carried on.  If we put our stock in the tangible things of this world, we will only be remembered as long as the stuff we leave behind exists.  Beyond that time, our memories will deteriorate as did our wealth.  Spend this life with people.  Have you called your Mom today?

May God bless your life with an abundance of loving relationships,

Daryl Dho

Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 1 so far )

Waste Not, Want Not

Posted on October 7, 2009. Filed under: Communication, Glory | Tags: , , , |

As we wake up every day, we should consider whether or not we are fully utilizing all that we have been blessed with in our lives. If we don’t, we may end up lacking what seems to be essential to us later on. Our culture conveys the impression that we tend to desire more than we require to sustain ourselves. I believe that most of us already know this to be true and would agree with my perception. We live in a society where we “throw away and dispose” of almost everything because we would rather buy new than use what is still left in our cupboard. Regardless of what aspect or material of our life we are discussing, we tend to not use all of it’s resources. The leftovers that we accumulate in our lives at some point become discarded, due to our lack of interest in them, desire for new, or because we are compelled to procure something fresh and pristine. My Dad use to say many old expressions that many of you may have heard; one of them that has always stuck with me is, “waste not, want not”!

Reflecting on my life as a child growing up in Southern California and Colorado, I believe that we did not waste much around the house, for the influence of that phrase “waste not, want not” resonated throughout our household. Maybe those were just simpler times with most people content with what they had, not all hung up on needing to obtain the next best thing as soon as it is available. I tend to believe some of this approach was due to our parents growing up earlier in the last century, before all of the technology, media blitz, and the like being so prevalent in our lives. So, maybe this conservative avenue which was more apparent in the past, considering a higher value on saving rather than spending, was just a part of our culture in those days.

But what about how we use our time. If we consider time as a commodity, then time would be another area that we should look at as something we waste a lot of. What “value” do we put on our time? There are 168 hours in a week, no more, no less. What we do with those 168 hours shows others what we put our “value” in. As we break the 168 hours down by the day, we have 24 hours to do complete all that we want to do, including eating, sleeping, working, learning, playing, etc. Whatever we do during those 1,440 minutes a day reflects upon where we put our “value” and our concerns. So, it seems to me that we need to take a look at our usage of time, because as the old saying goes, “waste not, want not.”

So, how do you spend your 10,080 minutes a week? Do you take advantage of most of those minutes wisely, or are many of them expended foolishly? Have you ever seriously given thought to how you use them? Let’s face it, we have many distractions in the wake of our day to take us away from what we may desire or wish to accomplish. Certainly, if we evaluate where all of the minutes go, I believe that most of us would have to agree that we probably waste a lot more of our precious minutes each day than we would like to.

One thing for sure, we probably do not educate or stimulate ourselves with enough learning, both from a practical and spiritual point of focus. God petitions us to take the time to spend with him both in a communicative state such as prayer and meditation, as well as reading His Word, The Bible. The Bible tells us in Psalm 1:1-2 (ESV) the following:

“Blessed is the man
who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
nor stands in the way of sinners,
nor sits in the seat of scoffers;
but his delight is in the law of the Lord,
and on his law he meditates day and night.”

We are instructed to spend the time reading, meditating, and delighting in God’s Word both day and night. If we misuse much of our time that is available to us, stating that we do not have enough time to spend with God and in His Word, then we may be guilty of falling into the trap of making excuses for our use of time, therefore needing to be reminded of the expression, “waste not, want not.” What are we doing with the 86,400 seconds each day that God gives us to use? 1 Corinthians 10:31 states, “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” If we are to do all things for the Glory of God as the scriptures say, then we need to be honest with ourselves in our evaluation of what we put “value” in and how we spend each second of our days. I am sure that most of us would admit that we probably could use our time more wisely. Certainly, we can afford a good portion of our 1,440 minutes per day to spend with God and His Word. As each moment of every day is a gift, we should apportion this gift of time with discernment, in order to get closer to our God, while understanding more of what He desires for us in our lives.

In our relationship with the creator, we can ascertain more about how to live in this life through an understanding and application of the principles inspired by God and written by men in the Bible. But, if we choose to make excuses why we cannot find the time to spend with God, then we will be left with a lack of understanding of His word. So, the choice is there for each and every one of us. Each 24 hour, 1,440 minute, and 86,400 second day is there for us to use as we please. My prayer for all of us is that we begin to use our time more carefully, in order to ensure that we are spending an adequate amount of time with the Lord, in His word and in meditation with Him. If we do, we are sure to incorporate a closer relationship with our creator and God, as He desires us to do. Remember, “waste not, want not” applies to the time we have available to us in our day. With that in mind, let us not misapply our priceless time, in order that we can fulfill God’s desire for us to do all things for His glory. Amen

Have a blessed and wonderful day,

Daryl Dho

Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( None so far )

Text Wars, Who’s Winning The Battle?

Posted on July 26, 2009. Filed under: Communication, Faith, Glory | Tags: , , , |

I remember when there were not any Cell Phones, before texting, Email, Tweeting, My Space and Facebook, when people could actually have a conversation with each other without having to push a button. We did have phones at home, and pay phones, then the first computer came out in the 80’s and we tried to go online in the 90’s with dial up, but that was a horrible waist of time. We would wait for ever to get dialed up, then downloading a page took forever. I can recall AOL giving 30 or 60 minutes free, and I told them that it is not free if I spend my entire time waiting for a page to dial up, so I canceled. Then came the cell phone generation and now what we see everywhere, the text wars, and the question is who’s winning the battle?

You are probably wondering what I am going off on today with this text wars deal. Well, it is simply this, everywhere I go, people are texting, Tweeting, Facebook, or going online right on their phone, me included. I do it all over the place, it is like an addiction. It started on our home computers, then migrated to the phones, and now with the iPhone and phones like it, we don’t even need a computer to do our Tweets, Facebook, Emails, or go online to find information, because it is at the tip of our fingers on our phone. I like the accessibility, don’t get me wrong, but my concern is this, are we communicating so much through our phones, that we have forgotten how to do it in person? In this era there is a text war going on, and I want to know who’s winning the Battle?

Even in our own homes, we choose to call or text each other, rather than go to the next room and talk to the person. I am really getting a little concerned with this situation. We should not lose sight of the importance of human interaction in all of our relationships, and I do not mean that we can include our emails, texts, etc. as a way of communicating. Yes, there is a place for all of them, and I do think that they have value and merit, but let us not exclude the way God gave us to communicate in the first place, our voices. Can we really communicate feelings, concerns, caring, and love through our texting and email? Of course we can not, so we better make sure that we don’t get so wrapped up in the text wars, that we lose the battle.

I know that even when people are arguing they use texting to try an avoid having the real conversation with the other person. This is not bringing us together, but separating us as a society. I believe that texting, emailing, Tweeting, and Facebook as a means of articulating our thoughts to another person are fun and a good way to do massive amounts of networking, but, let us not completely exclude our normal everyday conversations with loved ones and friends. We need to have time to talk, discuss, and get counsel on certain things in our lives, we can not do this through a text. Remember, there is a text war out there, so who’s winning the battle?

I have had discussions with individuals who tell me that the younger generation prefer to talk through text. I know that is the case, but if we realize that maybe that is not the way God wants us to be, that He would want us to share our time more up close and in person, rather than through the text, then maybe we can change things a little. I am not saying that we should stop all of the networking that we do through Twitter, Facebook, Email, etc., I am just saying that let us slow down enough to have some one on one interaction too. How’s that sound, fair enough?

God wants us to have special relationships with each other, and with Him. I think that in order to accomplish this, we need to have time together, interacting, talking, and sharing our lives together. Starting with our families, and then others that may be close to us, I know that we can spend a little less time on a text, and maybe a few minutes on the phone talking or in person. That would be a good thing for all involved.

God wants us to have this special relationship with Him. The Bible says in Exodus 33:12-13 (ESV), “Moses said to the Lord, “See, you say to me, ‘Bring up this people,’ but you have not let me know whom you will send with me. Yet you have said, ‘I know you by name, and you have also found favor in my sight.” Moses wanted to find favor in Gods sight, doing what He told him to do, and as we explore further into Exodus 33:17-18, “And the Lord said to Moses, “This very thing that you have spoken I will do, for you have found favor in my sight, and I know you by name.” Moses said, “Please show me your glory.” God wants us to have this special relationship with Him, how could we do that if we were going to send Him a text message, or Him send us a text message. If that was the case, we would certainly lose the text war battle!

We seek God out in prayer, Philippians 4:6-7 says, “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” There is nothing in God’s word that says we should send God some kind of a message in order to communicate with Him. All we need to do is talk directly with our creator, He is waiting there for us to connect with Him. In the text war, if you are wondering who will win the battle, I believe that God will win the battle, because I trust God to triumph over all, including the text wars. So, I will pray about it a bit, and allow God to intervene in peoples lives where He sees fit, after all, He is the boss.

May you all be blessed by my next text (LOL),

Daryl Dho

Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( None so far )

Liked it here?
Why not try sites on the blogroll...