Have You Called Your Mom Today?

Posted on January 17, 2010. Filed under: Communication, Family, Forgiveness, Friendship, Love | Tags: , , , , , |

For years, a close friend of mine told me he called his Mom every day.  She lived in another state, so he did not have the opportunity to see her very often.  According to my friend, their conversations were not that long, but were meaningful.  If you keep reading this post, you will discover why their conversations were so meaningful.  Unfortunately, his Mom passed away around Christmas, and he passed away last week from a car accident.  My friend would call in the morning, before work, and they would talk for awhile discussing what was going on in their lives.  He loved his Mom, and calling her every day was one way he showed her his love.  Of course, if you don’t call your Mom every day, that does not mean you do not love her, but it can’t hurt!  If you don’t mind, I want to you ask a question; have you called your Mom today? I understand for some of you who have lost your Mom, or do not know your Mom, this may be difficult, and for that I apologize.  But, you have others in your life you care for and love, others who you may need to call today.

I know most of us realize life is short, and the older we get the faster time seems to go by, but what are we doing to capitalize on every moment life has to offer?  Some time ago, I developed a theory as to why life seems to go by faster the older we get.  You see, if you take 1 year of your life when you are 5 years old, that 1 year is 20% of your life.  But, when you are 50 years old, 1 year is only 2% of your life span.  As we get older, a year of our life is a much smaller percentage to our overall years of life on this earth, therefore creating this idea or thought in our head that life is going by faster.  It really is not going by any faster, but seems to be going faster, due to the percentage of time we are measuring being a smaller percentage to our overall age as time goes by.  When we turn 100 years old, which I know is a long shot, then 1 year will be 1% of our total life.  So, a 5 year old does not have many life experiences to measure a year of time with, while a person 75 has 15 times as many years and occurrences in life to measure.  That is my theory.  With those thoughts, we certainly do not want to waste any of our precious and valuable time here on earth, but rather use it wisely, placing value on all of the relationships we have, whereby putting those relationships at the top our list of priorities, or “bucket list”.  Have you called your Mom today?

Since we all should understand time goes by way too fast, therefore desiring not to waste any of it, we need make sure we spend quality time with those we love and care for.  We never know when the minute, hour, or day will come in our lives when we will pass on from this life to the next.  It is imperative then, that we realize life is full of the unknown, including when our physical life will end.  Therefore, without exception, we should treat every moment, every hour and every day as if it may be the last.  Have you called your Mom today?

We should never stay angry with anyone, never go to bed after an argument with a family member or friend, never leave the house in the middle of an argument, until we resolve our dispute.  Holding a grudge or internalizing negative feelings towards others, does not serve any positive purpose.  We need to clear the air, acknowledging what wrong we have done, asking for forgiveness, and then move on.  Harboring hateful or hostile feelings towards others just puts us in an unfavorable place to be, one that can only bring misery and despair to both parties.  It is always best to put aside our pride, be the bigger person, and admitting fault, even if we are not wrong, or believe we are not wrong.  Have you called your Mom today?

Having a dispute with people we care about is not something I believe any of us delight in, but we allow our foolish pride to get in the way, therefore blurring our vision and our ability to make the proper decision about the resolution of the strife that exists between us.  Usually, these quarrels are a disagreement over something with no major importance.  Many times, we can’t even remember how they started in the first place.  Again, we are allowing our pride to take control of our life; whereby we neglect the most important part of the equation, the continuance of our relationship with the person we are in conflict with.  It is not worth existing in an environment which could be considered hostile.  Make the necessary adjustments to rectify what the problem is; then make up with the person and move on.  Life is short.  Have you called your Mom today?

This life goes by in a blink of an eye.  At the end of our lives, nothing we have will go with us, not our money, our cars, our house, our TV, none of it.  Everything we have will stay here on earth, be given to someone else, and eventually will disappear.  What is most important in this life are two things, as Jesus said in Matthew 22:37-39 (ESV), “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.  This is the great and first commandment.  And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”  We must care more about our relationships in this life than the pursuit of the temporal aspects of this world which seem so enticing.  Caring for others, including our parents, our spouse, our children, and our friends, should be our priority.  Nothing else matters in the end. Have you called your Mom today?

Jesus consistently talked about how we should love one another, as he said in John 13:34, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.”  If we care more for others than ourselves, the reward we receive in return far outweighs what we think we are losing by giving.  This attitude of giving for others carries with it a prize of fulfillment, for when we care for one another, we receive a warming spirit in our lives, an intangible gift that is more wonderful than any physical thing the world can provide.  Have you called your Mom today?

Life is short, do not waste any of it.  Work always towards the building of relationships with your family and friends.  If we put our stock in the relationships of our lives, we will leave behind a legacy that can go on forever, generation to generation, as the thoughts and memories of how we cared for others will be carried on.  If we put our stock in the tangible things of this world, we will only be remembered as long as the stuff we leave behind exists.  Beyond that time, our memories will deteriorate as did our wealth.  Spend this life with people.  Have you called your Mom today?

May God bless your life with an abundance of loving relationships,

Daryl Dho

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I was just discussing your theory on time passing quickly with Deb yesterday. Deb already talks to her mom nearly every day. We have also decided to have her mom and sister over for dinner on a regular basis so we can see them more often. May not get the chance to do so tomorrow…
Well done!


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